This is a collection of autobiographical poems about love. I call it “What Really Matters because it is about things that are most important to me and have enduring value. It’s about relationships that I have had in life that have conveyed a sense of meaning to me and thus reflect those things that matter most to me. Tragically, the most important relationships in my life did not include members of my biological family or origin – my mother, father, sister, and brother. Instead, I made my own family of choice that has been my real family. This includes the first girl I ever love, Celta Camille Head, my first wife, Lynn Denise Krupey who died far too soon, my second wife Elnaz Rezaei Ghalechi (Elee), and my dear friend Thomas Childs.
I also have friends in my life now that treat me with love, compassion, kindness, and act from a place of empathy.
I also describe in detail the losses I have known. Celta died tragically far too early. Lynn died from a health condition with which she was born. Thomas died unexpectedly from a heart attack in 2010. The loss of a wife is the single greatest stressor that a person can experience. Who am I when I lost the one person that was a part of me? As a couple, my identity was wrapped up in the idea of Lynn and Bruce and not “just Bruce.” The commitment was forever. After Lynn got sick, I went about as if I was in a psychological fugue, literally lost… literally wanding about in life like in a trance… not knowing where I was going or where I might want to go.