Munchausen syndrome by proxy – a memoir of abuse

This book is about the life I have known as an adult and the way in which my mind was poisoned by very negative ideas. By changing the way I thought about myself I was able to heal from a combination of mental illnesses that had plagued me for the past twenty years. Those negative ideas came from my own family. When I was down and at my worst, needing emotional support, I turned to my family – my sister Carrie Whealton and my parents Kathleen Whealton and Bruce Whealton Sr. I don’t know if they were aware of the harm that this negativity was causing me but it continued up until nearly the present day.

I have no knowledge or explanation for why I was shunned and ostracized over the past 30 years. In fact, it was so bizarre that I had not realized it was happening until two different things occurred. Both experiences occurred when I was in training for certification as a peer support specialist. I met someone who was a victim of Munchausen syndrome by proxy and I met individuals who were in recovery from substance use disorders. At first, I didn’t think I could relate to either but I was very uncomfortable and felt a familiarity with what I was hearing.

It felt like I was experiencing another epiphany. When my family should have been proud of me and happy for me, back in the 90s, it seemed like I was being treated like I was an embarrassment to the family. When tragedy and trauma struck in 2000 – the life of my wife Lynn was in jeopardy as well as my career – I turned to my family for support because my wife had to focus on her own survival efforts – she was dying. Instead of support, my mind was poisoned with the idea that there was something wrong with me for being emotionally disturbed by these events. It would take me 20 years to break free of this poisonous negativity and to finally heal beginning in 2020. This is my story of recovery and healing.

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