Understanding and Misunderstanding
Understanding and Misunderstanding
I think about experiences
that are impossible for me
to experience.
I understand
what you said
you understand.
You understand
what you heard me say—
when I told you
what I understand.
We misunderstand each other
often.
I like it when we misunderstand.
When we talk about it.
When misunderstanding
becomes a way
to understand.
"How dare you say,
‘I understand.’"
"Isn’t that what you wanted?"
You confuse me.
I want you to know
that you don’t understand me.
I want you to ask me
to explain
what I understand—
so I can understand
what I understand,
so you can hear me
tell you
what I understand,
so you can understand
what I understand.
Do you understand?
Yes.
Wait, no.
You understand
yourself
better
when I tell you
to explain
what you understand
about yourself?
That’s right.
It’s only when
I try to explain
what I understand
that I understand
myself.
That doesn’t happen
to me, she says.
“I understand exactly
what I mean
when I speak”
I wonder in my mind
how to respond.
What does she think
of me
when I don’t
always understand
myself?
When the urge to speak
gets away from
clarity.